January 16 – 20, 2020

Ukilái: An Annual Gathering of Men

with David Wiley

“I have noticed a profound shift in the way I move in my daily life. The simplest routine tasks elicit deep emotions of reflection and peace.” —Alan Kerner, Traditional Healer (mara’akame in the Huichol tradition)

“I had an amazing time at the men’s retreat.  It inspired me to live my life differently, prioritizing values, like my family, which are very dear to me.” —John Huang, Sacred Fire Community Firekeeper

“Situations can be met directly and openly, without a strategy and without aggression. This feels both powerful and gentle at the same time; an expanding of awareness of what it is to be ‘male’.” —Tom Edwards, Moab resident



In the face of all the change in the world, how do we keep our orientation and move in a good way? It’s not that traditional societies didn’t have their challenges. But they knew that if they could connect to their core as men, they would always know who they were and, therefore, their purpose and direction. Spirit would take care of the rest. In the remote Sierra Madres of northwestern Mexico men still come together with the help of their elders to re-forge and deepen this awareness for the benefit of themselves, their families and their communities. The word they use for this gathering is ukilái.”

We have this same opportunity to join as men: To shake off whatever is blocking our view and be better prepared to work with whatever challenges are coming our way. Sacred Fire is offering this men’s work led by Don David Wiley. Don David is a fully initiated elder in two ancestrally-related traditions. He does teaching, healing, and ritual work around the world and has provided Ukilái gatherings to men for over 15 years. Being born and raised in our modern western culture, yet being steeped in traditional wisdom, he brings a unique grounding to what it is to be male.

We are so happy that Blue Deer will once again be hosting Ukilái. Developing the Blue Deer Center to host programs and gatherings like Ukilái was one of the first major Sacred Fire projects. It is a very special place, and has been recognized as a powerful spot for personal and group healing by the peoples indigenous to that area for many generations.

Sacred Fire LifeWays
Ukilái: An Annual Gathering of Men
is a Sacred Fire Lifeways program.


Details & Pricing

Arrive: January 16, 2019 after 4 pm
Gathering: January 17, 18 & 19, 2020
Depart: January 20, 2019 after 10 am

Cost: $795, all inclusive, includes breakfast on the 20th


Please contact Linda at lindafelch@bluedeer.org with any questions you may have about this program or registration.

We offer the option of special meals for those with certain dietary restrictions (gluten-free, dairy-free, gluten- and dairy-free). If you have other dietary restrictions, please email catering@bluedeer.org to discuss your needs.

Please plan to arrive at the Blue Deer Center between 4 and 6 pm on 1/16. Dinner will be served the first night. This program will be over after breakfast on 1/20. Details regarding transportation options can be found by clicking on the link on your registration confirmation or by clicking here

Cancellation Policy:  Cancellation of your reservation more than 14 days prior to arrival entitles you to a full refund of tuition less a $50 processing fee. If you cancel 8 to 14 days prior to arrival, your program fee, less a $50 processing fee, will be held for you to use in another future program up to a year.  If you cancel 2 to 7 days prior to arrival, your program fee, less a $50 processing fee and food costs, will be held for you to use in another future program up to a year. No refunds or credits will be issued for cancellations received less than 48 hours before a program’s start date.